Get Your S.H.I.T. Together

How many times have asked yourself: “Why can’t I just get my shit together?” Well, you’re in good company if you have. I am in my mid-forties and there are days where I just cannot seem to adult during midlife. Where I feel like EVERYONE else has their shit together and I’m just over here thrilled I washed my hair.

This happens less now that I’m not hungover every day, but the question still rears its ugly head now and then. When it happens in midlife, I try to think of this acronym. It helps…sometimes.

Sometimes I just go back to bed.

If your brain is anything like mine, the hardest part of “getting your shit together” isn’t motivation.
It’s figuring out where to put all the ideas, obligations, and half-finished plans bouncing around your head.

S. is for Self-Care

So, let’s redefine self-care for you – it’s not just about pampering, it’s about making choices that nurture your well-being, saying no when you need to, facing your emotions head-on in midlife, and fiercely protecting your time like the queen you are.

H. is for Happiness

So, while the phrase may sound a bit worn out, its truth lies in the idea that happiness isn’t a destination you arrive at, but a continuous journey you embark upon, embracing all the emotions and experiences that come your way. In midlife, it’s a journey unique to you, full of twists and turns, and that’s what makes it beautiful and real.

I. is for Inner Peace

Is it simple? In concept, yes. But is it easy? Fuck no. It’s a process that can be messy, uncomfortable, and sometimes downright shitty. It means making tough choices, letting go of toxic influences, and standing up for your own needs and values, even when it’s not the popular or easy thing to do.

Getting to a place where you can truly be happy and content during midlife involves a lot of self-work, understanding your values, and fiercely protecting what matters to you. It’s a journey that can be challenging, but it’s also incredibly rewarding because it’s about creating a life that authentically reflects who you are.

T. is for Time

On the other hand, intentional rest and downtime are crucial for our well-being. These moments serve as necessary pit stops in our journey through life. In midlife, it’s about recognizing when we genuinely need a break to recharge and when we’re just using activities as a way to avoid addressing what’s truly important.

Time is a limited and precious resource, and it’s vital to be mindful of how we’re spending it. It’s not about judgment but rather about understanding our intentions and making choices that align with our values and genuine needs. It’s about living our lives with purpose and authenticity.

Self-care, far from just spa days and wine, involves mastering the art of “no,” diving into your feelings’ abyss, and guarding your time like a bear mama. As for happiness being a journey, it’s cliché, but life’s a rollercoaster, and eye rolls are part of the ride. Knowing yourself? Well, it’s a bit like figuring out your least favorite relative at a family reunion – messy, uncomfortable, but essential for setting boundaries. And time, oh, that precious thing, it’s slipping away, but Netflix binges aren’t necessarily a waste – just be honest with your Instagram habits. Life’s a bit like folding a fitted sheet, not always neat, but uniquely yours. So, embrace midlife with humor, sarcasm, and authenticity; it’s your one-of-a-kind journey, after all.

If you’re in a season of trying to get your shit together, start small.
Start with one idea. One boundary. One honest look at how you’re spending your time.

And if your brain is anything like mine, start with somewhere to put all the ideas.